MARRIAGE EXPANDS YOUR CAPACITY TO BE GOOD

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MARRIAGE EXPANDS YOUR CAPACITY TO BE GOOD

Marriage improves our capacity, and each marriage has its unique way of getting this done. 

One of the greatest lessons you learn of marriage is when you learn not to engage for conflict. Your spouse is your own professed number one love and favorite person on Earth. You're not in the marriage for war. You're in it to prove your capacity to carry your spouse and family as on eagles' wings. Your spouse also made a declaration of love and lifelong commitment. Believe it or not, they feel the greatest pressure to prove this even to themselves. 

Whoever initiates a conflict is therefore already guilty, and they know it. Feign surprise, and just refuse to engage. The onus to resolve then weighs heavier on them, and just a little beckoning soon brings them back around. 

If you engage for conflict, you fuel it, and begin to carry some of the guilt burden. 

When you've indicated something don't like that they do, the indication alone is enough. You'll soon wake up one day to find out that they're no longer doing it. 

Your concentration should therefore always be much more on improving your own temper and character, and in making greater effort at supplying what you want supplied to the family. Very soon, you'll prove you don't have a need or a care in the world.


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